There are people out there who see nothing wrong with their treacherous actions, and the pain that they’ve inflicted on other people.
And they wonder why some of us have grown to be avoidant…
Well, here’s why:
1. Because the pain of betrayal hurts so much that we never want to feel it again. We’ve been traumatized beyond belief. We cannot fathom the level of pain and manipulation we’ve seen coming from those we once trusted. It hurts so much because we would’ve not done to them what they’ve done to us.
We fell in love with someone who wasn’t even real. Marinate on how deceiving that must be, and to this day some of them still don’t take accountability. Gaslighting will no longer have power over you when you know the truth, and can see very clearly, especially if you are spiritually clairvoyant.
2. Because we are willing to give the world to those we love and care for, and that’s scary. We are willing to go out of our way to elevate moods and heal the broken without expecting a reward. We do things out of the kindness of our own heart because it’s just innate for us to do. Unfortunately, this kind nature is what attracts the leeches to come take advantage of our generosity. That’s why we have to be stingy with our energy otherwise this life will make us grow bitter.
The people who have done you wrong have no F’n idea what they’ve just lost.
This is a cold world with very few good people left in it, but what happens to the select few?
They get done so wrong, taken for granted, overlooked, slandered, betrayed, unappreciated, used, and abused. Any bad thing you can think of has happened to these kind souls.
So it makes sense for us to be avoidant, but please don’t let it discourage you. All you have to do is learn from those painful experiences, and be very selective of who comes into your life. Even if that means being a loner. We have to learn to love our solitude. As the Spanish saying goes, “Mejor sola que mal accompañada,” which means it’s better to be alone than to have bad company.
We need discernment, and keep our eyes open.
You don’t have to become heartless, just don’t give your heart to the wrong ones who will only drain you.
I know it’s hard though because plenty of people today are pretending to be real with you.
Also, the journey may be lonely for the last ones standing, but as the saying goes, “Only the strong will survive.” Yeah, it sounds good and all, but sometimes we feel like we can’t take it anymore. We can only remain strong for so long, so we must encourage one another continue on.
I urge you to please stay strong 🙏