There are times we may feel fatigued or burned out, from the everyday routines we stick to, the stresses of life, sensory overload, the redundant work we do, and getting our daily dose of screen radiation from our smartphones and computers. The longer we spend glued to our devices, the more we are being transformed into a being separate from what we were initially created for. We become more robotic in a sense. Grant it, everything revolves around the internet, apps, and smartphones; it is inevitable, however, we must also take some time off these devices. Our mind needs to reset from time to time. I’d say try to limit your consumption of TV or internet/apps everyday, but if you cannot help it then you can perhaps take a day off of it.
What is resetting your mind?
Allowing your mind to relax from constant stimuli and distractions. You’re essentially dedicating that time or day to clear your mind of any toxic thought patterns. It simply means to give your brain a break from sensory overload which leads to overthinking and insomnia. You know those times you try to go to sleep but can’t because of random thoughts intruding? Random thoughts that require you to look it up to be sure of it. The picture below can best describe this:
I’ve gone through that myself too, and it can mess up your sleeping patterns. It really should be top priority to gadget fast or refrain from social media if you can help it. Since I’ve implemented this I’ve noticed I sleep much better, a wake up early with energy, and no migraines. Even if I don’t fully gadget fast, I’d only use my phone to play healing music/chill lofi while making art, reading, or writing. I usually do this on Saturdays since it is the 7th day of the week for keeping Sabbath. Either way it goes try to fit relaxation and mind recalibration time into your schedule. Your brain will thank you!
Now let’s look at the benefits of resetting your mind.
1. SHARPENS INTELLECT
Especially if you read books during your reset, you’ll notice your thoughts moving quicker and more efficiently. You don’t have that brain fog, and forgetfulness flees. You can pretty much think clearer, resulting in increasing your cognitive abilities like breaking down the logic of an argument, better comprehension, recalling information, and being able to articulate that knowledge. You become like a sponge, being able to absorb vast amounts of information without feeling the overload so soon. It actually becomes satisfying to learn, (that’s the beauty of reading physical books). On another note, it is said that reading physical books could reverse the adverse effects of phone radiation that are eyes are blamed with everyday. Check this article here regarding “Digital dementia” and how to rejuvenate our brain from the damage of phone addiction. Reading books was one of the things mentioned in the article that could prevent mental deterioration later on in life.
2. LONGER ATTENTION SPAN
When you take the time to go for a casual walk, or (even better!) an adventurous hike in nature, you are forced to be alert. You are cautious. Because you have to be. And this places us back into our human nature, of being wary of our surroundings; therefore, our attention spans increase. You have to pay attention to where you go in your environment. Also, walking or hiking for example, can help us reevaluate our lives and thoughts. Our thoughts can be transformed from that experience, thus our lives transform along with it, because it all starts in the mind. Going for a hike gives us that slight anticipation of what’s coming next up ahead, you have no time to be staring at a glaring lit phone, otherwise you might stumble, fall, and drop your phone on the mud! Oh no. And we don’t want that do we? So put it in your pocket and keep moving! Your thoughts are now your “feed.” Now FEED your mind with organic thought traffic.
3. STRESS DISSIPATES
We need to take breaks throughout the day, and even so take the whole day off at least one day out of the week. Stress is one of those silent killers, so take the time to relax and shut off all that noise. We all need some quiet time to regenerate otherwise we’ll degenerate into degenerate behavior in order to cope with the stress.
You never want to let stress get the best of you. You don’t want to fall back into toxic patterns. But in order to prevent that, you must first avoid stress from building up in the first place. That’s why it is so crucial to take a day or two off. We all need it. And just chill. Go do a hobby you enjoy. Dance. Play an instrument or produce music. Write therapeutically. Go to the beach, enjoy that ocean breeze. Any waterfront will do, but nothing tops the majestic ocean. Immerse yourself in nature like a trail. Or listen to some chill music and draw or paint. Play a sport, or hit the gym. Go for a good run, and allow that cardio action to give you runner’s high. As a person who’s runs anywhere between 5 to 10 miles, I can attest to the fact that runner’s high is euphoric. It keeps you in a good mood. Definitely a stress reliever.
4. YOU’RE MORE LAIDBACK, YOU DON’T GET EASILY AGITATED
Have you ever heard of a person being agitated after meditation? Has anyone been angry after enjoying a day of leisure? I’ve never seen a person irritated coming from a sunny day outat the beach! Generally, when we are getting burned out, we tend to be on edge, which can push us to get triggered easily. We need a break and when we don’t get that we go off. Like in jail for instance, everyone’s on edge to an extent, and it doesn’t take much to agitate an inmate. I’m sure we know this. Being confined behind walls and bars with maniacs can drive anyone over the edge. You get no breaks in jail, and just like in the outside world, we may be overworking ourselves to death daily. Of course the environment is different, but the fatigue can be felt the same when we don’t give ourselves that peace that we need. Thankfully, we are out here, with some degree of freedom to choose to take a day off.
5. OUR CREATIVE JUICES FLOW BETTER
This rings true especially if you are an artist of some sort. You need that time to unravel the ideas trapped in your mind. Your mind is a factory that manufactures infinite creations. But if you don’t allow the machine to cool down it will break from constant overuse. No more creativity. Too tired and stressed to fix it. You don’t want to destroy that thing in you that gives you purpose. You have it in you to create many works. But in order to bring that into fruition you must reset your mind, then dig into it, to find the jewels. Normally, people don’t know they’ll find jewels until they do. But you have to dig for it. In order to dig, you have to be in a relaxed state. And when you keep digging, you’ll find an infinite river current where your creativity flows. And it’ll keep flowing forever so don’t waste any time! Whenever you can tap into that, please do, and never let this rat race world make you neglect your God-given talents. Do not give up your creativity or peace of mind!
Can keep you from reaching your overall potential. You’ll never know how far you can go if you don’t give it a GO. Our mindset could be the very thing hindering us from our exponential growth.
A poverty mindset is basically a mindset of scarcity, a doubtful mentality, where you constantly second-guess yourself. You feed into the lack of belief you have for yourself, and that impedes you from moving forward. It’s something we can change yet we often overlook the power of the mind. We fixate ourselves with other things that we think is the root cause of our distraught thoughts, but we fail to realize our misfiring synapses cannot seem to reach into the correct cranial portals of our brain, causing a failure in our thought process, thus a negative mindset remains alive, eating us alive, keeping us in a hive, that which incarcerates us.
Some of us have spent the first years of our lives believing in scarcity, scared to leave the city, preventing ourselves from entering into a new beginning.
How do we know what’s in store for us when we don’t even make our approach? No one else will do it for us. Some of us wait until someone else does it, but what if no one ever does? What if you’re the only one meant to do it? Or you may be a once in a lifetime figure for that talent/gift.
If you ask me. I’d say go for it! When you are called to do something then you must! It is your life’s purpose to accomplish your mission on this Earth. That way when your last days come, you’ll live with no regrets, no what ifs, all you have is a sense of satisfaction that you’ve done what you were set out to do all these decades, and when you close your eyelids one last bit, you welcome in the last breath you take, and your breath is then taken safely, into another dimension, a blissful one, where we would have no concept of the perils and pitfalls of this pitiful world.
So while we’re still here, when you know your calling, do embark on that journey, let go of doubts, just see where it takes you, keep your discernment strongly intact, so you’re aware of the right and wrong paths you may find along the way. Life has plenty of traps set up to ensnare us, so beware.
The 6th sense is a powerful phenomenon, but in this blog we’re talking about physical senses which originates from feelings. And feelings are whimsical and fleeting, therefore they aren’t the most reliable sources for information.
You Cannot always trust your senses, our senses could be used against us through ways that we may be enticed and aroused into self-destructive behavior. Our senses can make us fall into temptation that could ruin our lives, all because it feels good at the moment, impulsively compelled to do the unthinkable, that we later regret when it’s all set and done.
Was it really worth it? No.
Our vulnerability and emotions can manipulate us. Emotions are inconsistent. Just because it feels right doesn’t mean it is right.
We have control over our own life’s decisions. As an architect, you cannot blame others for your faults, for causing that structure to fall because YOU designed it. Do not embark on a project you aren’t ready for. Be equipped with the right amount of knowledge before you build.
It is very important that we move in this world with a logical sound mind. We are indeed architects of our own lives, and like a good architect we have to have vast knowledge on how to build structure into our lives. We must not start off without the basic essentials, the foundation, otherwise the building will topple over.
We are architects yes. We can either be wise ones or foolish ones.
We can be the architects of our own earthly heaven, or we can be architects of our own hell.
Do we want to thrive and live in abundance? Or live in scarcity and quickly reach our demise?
Every choice we make in life has a good and bad consequence. The same age old battle of “Good vs. Evil,” the spiritual battles we face daily is not new. This has been going on since the beginning of time. This is ancient stuff.
Though, there may be plenty of factors we can’t control in life, there are some things we can handle ourselves. It is up to us to do what we can to make the best decisions, and the only way we can do so is by always seeking wisdom. This is achieved through self-reflection, accountability, humility, being in a meditative state (prayer mode), and deep thinking. Vital information can be downloaded onto us when we are humble enough to admit that there’s plenty of things we do not know. And just because you don’t know everything does not mean you cannot learn abundantly.
For as long as we live in this earthly realm, it is impossible to learn every single thing in one lifetime. One lifetime is not enough to learn everything, so there’s no sense in being a prideful, arrogant know-it-all. Enjoy the time here and gather all the information you can. Sharpen your skills, hobbies, talents, and mind. Work smart and have fun.
Be that architect that knows how to build a sturdy structure that lasts centuries or longer. It has surely been done before. Create your own oasis despite the challenges. At least try, so you don’t have to live with regrets.
I’d rather try and fail knowing I at least tried, than to never try and live with the regret of “what if I would’ve…” I’m an overthinker as it is, I cannot live with regret like that. And just because you failed once or twice doesn’t mean you cannot accomplish things. Just try new approaches and keep on building. Find better ways to do so. And build. Keep on trying. The more you try, the higher the likelihood of you actually getting it done the way you always wanted it. A lifetime may be short, but it sure is enough time to shoot your shot, trial and error, until you finally get it right, and you get to enjoy that blessing you reaped from your consistent labor, and wisdom seeking.
Never give up! You never know how close you’re getting to hitting the jackpot!
We dream. But then we get reoccuring dreams with similar themes and scenes. What does it all mean? You may want to get to the bottom of it, to gain a better understanding of symbolism that may be relevant to our waking world; or in other cases, it may be a replay of traumatic events that disturbs or angers us when we wake up from it, wondering why do I keep seeing the same things, events, or people? And how can we make peace with it?
Let’s delve into the 7 Reasons why you are having these reoccurring dreams.
1. THEY MAY BE THINKING ABOUT YOU
You may keep seeing the same person in the dream consistently, over and over again. It may be a former love interest, someone you used to date or be in a relationship with. We may have heard about how if you dream about someone a lot they may be thinking about you. This could be possible, especially if you haven’t been thinking about them at all. In fact, you’ve gotten over them years ago, but here they pop into your dreams uninvited. They may possibly be thinking about you ONLY IF they later on (in the waking world) show patterns that may lead up to that conclusion. For instance, you dream about your ex then the next few days or so you get a text from them out of nowhere. Yeah.
It may be a friend or family member you haven’t spoken to in a while.
I’ve had dreams about my divorced parents, usually I’m walking with them individually having a nice conversation with each in a different setting. I started having these dreams alot when I moved to another state, and the dreams make me feel closer to them. The conversations feel so real. I often wonder if they too have had that same dream on that same time about the same conversation!
If your parents or friends miss you then this dream may be telling you they’re thinking about you. Maybe give them a call! Only if they aren’t toxic. Because if they are toxic in real life, I’d suggest you keep distance from them.
2. OR YOU MAY BE THE ONE THINKING ABOUT THEM
This could be the case. It really depends. Were you thinking about them before falling asleep? Have you been thinking about them alot lately? Because your thought patterns can influence who you see in your dreams. Also, another way to confirm this is by finding out what happens days after the dream. Are they trying to reach out to you? Or are they nowhere to be found? Chances are if you haven’t heard from them AT ALL then it’s just you thinking about them. Relax. These type of dreams are an expression for your longing of that person. Hopefully, you aren’t obsessed with them though.
3. YOU HAVE UNRESOLVED CONFLICTS
You may have never finished something before, you’re searching for answers, and the dream realm becomes an outlet for you to explore what it is that happened. It’s gonna take time but time does heal very well.
You may need to forgive people in order to make peace with it. You can forgive them in person, in prayer, or writing.
I’ve had reoccuring dreams of someone who did me wrong. Then, when I woke up from it,I wrote a forgiveness letter to them. Not to actually mail it to them, but to simply let it be known in my subconscious mind that I no longer have this issue with them. My pen marks solidify the forgiveness I have for them. The dreams of that person stopped.
Or you can also forgive them right in the dream. They may not know you have done so. But the whole point is for you to officially let go of that conflict even if you think that there isn’t one.
My last dream about my ex, he was very sad and distraught about his mistakes. He thought I was still upset and depressed over it. In the dream, I held his hand, told him that I had already forgiven him, and that I’m no longer that same person before who had anger issues and depression. He noticed I’ve grown much since and was able to forgive himself. And we peacefully let go of our hands and went our separate ways.
That was the last reoccurring dream I had of him. I noticed a pattern: these dreams stop when we genuinely forgive these people. Sometimes, dreams can really serve as a therapeutic way to let go of unresolved conflicts we’ve had with people in our past, and it can truly be a beautiful thing. Since you couldn’t forgive them in real life, you get an opportunity to do so in dreams, and the resolution feels so real, and it helps quite a lot.
4. YOU MAY BE HAUNTED BY A PAST TRAUMA
There are people who’ve had PTSD inducing experiences that appear in dreams. Nightmares really. Trauma definitely replays in dreams due to it being so severely damaging to the psyche, that it almost dominates our minds, to the point it monopolizes your dreams. This can range from war stories, P.O.W. memories, child abuse, sexual or physical abuse, domestic violence, etc the list goes on. These events leave a heavy imprint in our minds, therefore it has a heavy influence on our dreams, nightmares really. Forgiveness is definitely a great thing to do. If you do suffer from PTSD, it is recommended to see a psychological professional. There’s also the healing power of writing it all down, and praying in the form of letting it all out of your chest. Wisdom saves us from alot of turmoil, because it allows us to make sense out of our life experiences, which makes it easier for us to forgive others and ourselves. Sometimes, the hardest person to forgive is ourselves.
I struggled with dreams of me running away from the person who abused me as a child. I couldn’t help but feel lots of anger and wrath towards him. I would yell obscenities at him, curse him out, and TELL HIM OFF. He refused to acknowledge his wrongdoing, and his gaslighting angered me more. I know he was quite the narcissist. I eventually forgave him. Then, the last dream I had regarding him was of him being locked up in a jail, and I got on the train leaving that awful place. Seeing that jail shrink smaller and smaller as the train took offfurtherand further into freedom was a powerful scene for me to see. I am truly letting go.
It’s a gradual process. But it is beautiful when we reach our peace of mind.
5. TO GET RID OF A PHOBIA
Because our minds know that we’d never try to confront our fears in the waking world, so our dreams give us a simulation of that confrontation in order to help us get rid of our fears and phobias.
I am afraid of deep water, in the waking world I’ve almost drowned, and I’m afraid to try to learn how to swim. However, I start to dream about swimming without fear, and I do so gracefully.
In the waking world, I have negative buoyancy, so swimming is difficult for me as it is. But those dreams believe it or not, kind of helped me build a bit more confidence to learn. Besides, swimming is an important survival skill. Not only to save myself but also others. Now, I’m looking at it as a challenge to save my life basically. If I can master this swimming thing then the fear would dissipate.
6. IT MAY BE AN URGENT MESSAGE
If you didn’t get it the first time then you’ll keep getting the dream memos more than once like an eviction notice. Analyze the dream symbols: people, places, or things and ask yourself how do they correlate? Chances are if you are getting the same messages then it may be important not to overlook it. It may be more than just some random dream. It could be a warning of something to come.
7. SOMETHING MAY REQUIRE SPECIAL ATTENTION
Dreams can simply be weird concoctions of silly memories, and eccentric moments all wrapped up into a smorgasbord of quirky randomness. Not all dreams are worth writing down at times, but some are especially if it is regarding someone you know and care about. The fact that you see it resurface again means hey! Yoohoo! Did you catch that? or may I need to send more of these reoccurring dreams until you realize it’s worthy of scrutiny?!
Thank you for reading!! Hope you found this helpful for your dream journal journey!
As someone who suffered from long term chronic illness, I found that looking for health became much easier once I understood why I was sick. When I realized what I had been doing to myself, it became crystal clear to me why I was suffering. While everything is perfect in nature, what we have become by moving […]
This comes from the Life is a Journey blog, you can visit the site of the original post here. I really enjoyed reading this blog to its entirety. It breaks down how living in this modern day hamster wheel has brought us far away from our natural ways; hence, placing ourselves far away from our bodys’ natural healing powers. We have placed ourselves in positions where we are surrounding ourselves with toxicity attacking us from all angles, from GMO foods, foods dunked in chemicals, chemtrails, electromagnetic radiation, pollution, and the hustle and bustle of the matrix that disrupts our resonance with the Earth. How can the Earth provide us with healing when we don’t even grow our own food or raise our own animals anymore?
This is an outstanding read! Every detail of it contains valuable information.
Huge rain droplets furiously clapping against the windows,
Like it knows who’s home,
Don’t be overconcerned with who may betray you,
A ray of light will open the revelatory veil for you to revel the truth that’s been unraveled,
Often times we think why do good people go through bad things?
Let us not take our tribulations personal,
We’re just simply passing by this life,
The storm is merely passing by,
as it always does anywhere else in the world,
we are not exempt from struggles,
We all go through it,
Why is this happening to me?
This storm is no respector of persons,
It’ll get better after it worsens,
there’s no coercin’, whether you’re making the right or wrong decisions,
Every answer we choose must be captured with precision,
Quickly observe and measure before making an incision,
For as long as we walk righteously,
We need not to fret over who’s plotting shiestily,
As they vainly spend their time idley.
Bad things happen to good people NOT because they’re not good enough, but because this world is a battlefield that we are placed in, and we must be ready for anything that may come our way. We are here to get stronger everytime we almost lose our minds. This life can make you and/or break you.
You cannot run away from it.
We must face it.
Confront it with fortitude.
Behind every tribulation there is a lesson to be learned. The best way to ride through the storm is by stockpiling on vast amounts of WISDOM that will save you.
Oh no!! Don’t let them know how ambitious you are, it might scare them, just because they don’t have the kind of goals you have. Most people love mediocrity because it makes them feel comfortable, but when they see someone who aspires to do more they are intimidated by that. So, when you tell them your goals they will give you plenty of reasons why you can’t do it, how it’s too hard or impossible. They’ll tell you, “I’m just a realist. You need to set realistic goals.” What does that even mean? Realistic goals to them is basically mediocre goals.
2. THEY WILL TELL EVERYONE IN ORDER TO MOCK YOU
Because they fear that one day you may actually accomplish these goals, and their hearts would burn with jealousy and hatred. They aren’t willing to put in the work to be great, but they hate on the person who is. So if you tell one untrustworthy person your goals they will spread it around town in order to round up a crowd to mock you because they don’t believe in you. Most people don’t believe in you. But that’s OK. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible. No need to hear the negativity when you’ve got alot of work to do, and the last thing you need is doubtful affirmations.
3. PLANS MAY CHANGE
You may be lead to a different path along the way which is much more prosperous. You don’t wanna just say what you want to do without anything to show for it. It’s best to mention it when it has been done. Because plans may change along the way, and that isn’t necessarily a bad thing, you may find something better to expand on, as long as you accomplish it!
I really despise when people try to undermine the abilities of others. Do not allow people to get into your head, in attempts to convince you that your goals are impossible.
I hear this all too often by people who lack drive to become GREAT. I’ve heard this from people who spoke condescendingly, trying to discourage others from being an over-achiever. We will not apologize for wanting to be better than mediocre. Do not allow others to shame you for having high goals. This is why it’s best to keep your goals to yourself.
It’s not their mission. Therefore, what they say is irrelevant. Their disbelief means it isn’t their mission.
It is YOUR MISSION. Because the goal originated from your heart. All you have to do is work towards that goal. And it takes alot of heart to do it. I wouldn’t expect soulless people to comprehend what it means to have heart.
I’d suggest to keep your ambitious goals to yourself. Write it down in a notebook. Think on it. Visualize it. And work hard on manifesting it into reality. Make it your mission, and accomplish it.
It’s more than just a trip. The outdoors has plenty to offer:
beyond the scenic natural landscapes and well-nourished soil molded by a force more powerful than simply erosion,
the crashing cascade of water falling from atop a plateau, streaming down into the fresh water river,
willow trees extending its arms showing you can never overextend your welcome here,
then there’s the timid deer that trot about, wildlife is shy but nice when not provoked (our temperament isn’t so different. Don’t mess with me and I won’t mess with you),
then there’s the serenity of the grasshopper’s nocturnal symphony lulling you to deep sleep.
No need for curtains to shut off all that brightness from the street lights outside because we are underneath the tent now, it’s pitch black, with the moonlight providing comfort to us whom may still be afraid of the dark LOL.
There’s always that campfire you can have. The crackling sound of it is soothing, it mimics the percussion to go with the grasshopper’s orchestra. It all fits neatly into the perfect sleep sound so you can be sound asleep.
Camping provides you with the best sleep ever! You wake up the next day feeling refreshed, looking forward to the next day, wondering what adventure will we embark on. Most importantly, camping as a spiritual retreat is good for the soul. What do I mean by this?
For starters, camping puts us in an environment where we become more in tune with our senses, heightening our physical senses, eliminating all distractions, leaving you with your own mind, to not only be at peace, but to think deeply, to self-reflect, to connect with the infinite source of wisdom which is within us given by The Most High. We are spending time away from distractions of the world, away from the noise of the so-called matrix, that which extracts our energy into tasks that are merely meaningless, we lose our senses, our sense of self, and neglect knowledge of self to the point we not only forget who we are, but we stop seeking life-saving wisdom. Too busy creating a fake world, when the real world is already here, ready for our embrace, and camping is the closest thing to reconnecting with our roots in nature.
This poem by judeitakali, is written with such distinctive flow to it, the way chaos and order interact with one another, dancing alongside each other to bring in perfect balance. There’s also a hint of philosophy in it that allows us to understand the intricacies of this life we live, the pitfalls make us appreciate the triumph, rain makes us yearn for sunlight, and our gloomy days makes our next days that much brighter. What would life be if it is always perfect and orderly? How would we ever know how to deal with adversity without challenges and tribulations? Chaos is as essential as order. The poem I have reblogged describes this phenomenon. Give it a read!
I think it’s been cemented in your mind that everything begins with our thought patterns. The brain is a muscle we must not forget to exercise, for without the brain we don’t have any ability.
There is not only power in the words you meditate on.
There is also great power in VISUALIZING.
To see it, before it even exists, and only you can make it happen. You don’t even have the blueprint laid out yet, nothing has been printed out, the papers are waiting on you to sketch your visualization. The papers don’t draw themselves. Before anything can be drawn, first it must be visualized.
Creativity can freely form in your dome, prone to innovative ideas, seeing the sculpture molding before your eyes can witness it, your mind is showing you something different, a creation that hasn’t been done yet. You watch. You observe. Visualizing how the art will unfold, or how the story is told, you then manifest that onto the physical plane. With the stroke of a paintbrush or pen, perhaps typing sporadically, trying to get every detail on a solid copy, can’t wait to edit or review, the masterpiece you’ve just made.
And then we’re grateful for our talents.
Think about how amazing the mind truly is. That we can visualize things that don’t exist yet. Until we make them exist. We have the power to bring beauty into existence. I appreciate the artists and writers, who bring life onto paper, screens, or canvases, for us to admire and relate, to get a glimpse of the visualization that once lingered in their minds.
The art of adaptability is not predicated upon planning, life is very unpredictable, and plans may not work.
Depending on plans means you still think the world revolves around you.
You may think your plans are amazing, but sometimes your plans aren’t the best, and there is more in store for you that you do not know about. But you cannot see it because you are stringent upon fulfilling YOUR plans.
This is why humility is vital. To allow room for prosperous opportunities to find you. You must accept the fact that you do not know everything.
There is no point in being distraught about ruined plans. Sometimes there’s no room for it… perhaps there is more to explore, or it may come time to endure a tribulation.
Life is laced with tribulations, so prepare for them. Get your mind right. All you got to do is endure that tumultuous storm, soon the dark clouds will subside, the silver lining makes the victory apparent, and the glimmer of hope emanates as the sun is released from atmospheric imprisonment.
In that day, you will feel a strong sense of gratitude and appreciation, as well as new found fortitude you never thought you had before. As a result, you are granted with specific wisdom as your trophy.
The more challenges and tribulations, the more strength and wisdom will be awarded to you. And life will no longer be so hard for you’ll have a sharper perception. Things that used to intimidate you no longer do.
So accept the invitation. And the higher the difficulty the more honored you must be, it means you are built for it, you just don’t know it yet! In the end, you’ll be glad you didn’t quit.
Nothing and no one can stop you.
Because when tribulations come knocking, you go against the grain,
And when you triumph, you realize your drive cannot be stopped.
You are able to adapt to any given situation.
This is what you have to look forward to when practicing the art of adaptability.
Social media has hindered people’s verbal communication and made some intellectually lazy. It’s also become somewhat addicting, creating a vicious cycle of depression, unproductivity, and negative self-image and sense of worthlessness. It has been stated that most people who are addicted to social media tend to be narcissists, or are depressed, and/or insecure.
***Here’s a disclaimer: The internet is a very helpful tool, and it’s become a platform for many creative talents to gain exposure. Artists of all types (musicians, visual artists, writers, poets, lyricist, indie film directors, actors/actresses, fellow bloggers, etc) have used social media of some form to market their talents to the world. This is an example of using the internet auspiciously in a productive and positive manner. So I’m not against all social media, it is a great marketing tool, and allows likeminded people to connect virtually and instantly. Not to mention is has helped the self-employed and small businesses grow and gain notoriety, creating more opportunities for one to prosper.
Now, let’s get into the topic!
How Social Media has Destroyed Minds
1. COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS & SEEKING VALIDATION
I vaguely remember the times before smartphones came out. Yeah, there were still social media sites, but they weren’t as popular or intrusive like they are today. Ever since the inception of the smartphones, social media has dominated the minds and monopolized the time of most people. You may be able to get your mind back, but time is something you can’t get back. Yet it is wasted daily, scrolling through endless pictures, memes, posts, and people compare themselves and their life to others, not realizing that most are facades. Though I do appreciate a comedic meme, comparing yourself to others can get toxic.
While you’re over here wondering why you don’t have what they have, they probably don’t have it either! And even if they do, that doesn’t mean you can’t have achievements.
Instead of being concerned about what you don’t have Focus on how to reach your goals. But you’d never know what they are by looking at another person’s accomplishments.
And we know how addicting social media can be for many. Spending hours and hours, feeling sorry for yourself or jealous, perhaps even hateful towards others. If you were to use that same time and energy on yourself, you’ll have your own story to tell, without the need to see if your life measures up to another person’s. If you ever feel worthless check out this blog right here. Your life is your life. It is not going to be identical to everyone else’s. Each person is born with their own blueprint. And it is up to us to build it with our own niches and creative spins. It’s more impressive that way: to do it your way. It gives you a better sense of pride in your gifts.
In some cases, what you see in a person’s profile may be a facade. The people you try to measure up to, may be trying to measure up to vain standards that only exist in the confines of lost minds, who endlessly try to “keep up” with relevance. But what they uphold isn’t relevant. It’s all vanity. Like King Solomon said that much of this world is vanity.
And speaking of vanity…
2. VANITY & NARCISSISM
These traits have always existed. Nothing is new on the Earth, but social media is a hotbed for vanity and narcissism. You don’t have to showcase any good character or talent, (i mean you could, but there are those who don’t) just appearances, and some have taken that too far, to the point of exposing one’s sacred body in the half-nude or straight-nude for creeps. There’s no love, but it is often mistaken with lust, and that’s just enough to satisfy an insecure person or a narcissist. Then, the attention becomes addicting, as the narcissist revels in the attention galore they receive daily, hypnotizing many, causing others to move solely by animal instincts. It continuously feeds the beast, heavily feeding the narcissists’ egos. Social media becomes their feeding ground for constant rejuvenation of narcissist juice, with no room for self-reflection, reality checks, constructive criticism, and differing opinions. They would perceive any of those things as an attack, and they’ll send their cyberminions after you to make you think you’re wrong even when you’re right. If you want to read more about the depth of emptiness that lies within the narcissists’ cold lifeless eyes, read this.
3. FACE-TO-FACE CONVERSATIONS HAVE BECOME A THING OF THE PAST
It is quite unfortunate indeed, that many of us are forgetting how to socialize the way we’ve been doing so since the dawn of time. I recall back in the early 00s, when the internet was a bit primitive and we had those cool flip phones, we had more in-person contact, block parties, barbecues, meeting up at places to gather at, laugh, and talk. And actually talking on the phone with friends was exciting, we told many stories, then calling became a thing to avoid. Most people prefer texting now. They say it’s because we’re just too busy, but what was different then when we once made time to gather for joy?
Just about everywhere I go… whether it’s a radiant sunlit day at the beach or park, I see people with their eyes glued to the phone, absolutely oblivious to the beauty of nature that is standing right before them. You can’t be on that phone forever! Pretty soon you’re gonna want to go for a swim at the shore. What’s crazy to me is when I see a group of Gen Zs hanging out without speaking to each other, they’re literally texting one another while being in each other’s presence. Wow! That makes no sense to me. [Now, before you “ok boomer” me, I’m actually far from being a boomer. I’m a young millennial, in the cusp of old Gen Z, born in 1995.]
A pet peeve of mine is when someone starts a conversation with you, then they browse through their phone as you’re talking to them, only capturing bits and pieces of what you’ve said. You know they can’t listen fully. It is so rude and annoying. We can acknowledge how it has chopped off listening skills. If you can’t listen well, then all communications have failed. You cannot communicate effectively without listening completely. How else could you provide a legitimate response to the person you’re conversing with? Instead, you get half-a$$ responses that don’t even correspond, so it’s really not worth talking to most people.
4. LOWER ATTENTION SPANS & INTELLECTUAL LAZINESS
It’s become noticeable how low people’s attention spans have gotten. I think part of it has to do with how diluted the languages have become in attempts to take things easier. Texting abbreviations have made us lazy with the spelling and linguistics. This could go on for so long that we’d probably forget what the letters stood for; the abbreviations would become a word in of it itself.
Also, not much thought goes into text conversations. You can easily escape from difficult questions if you’re texting. That’s why texting is the worst way to confront someone. It’s definitely not the way to address an important issue. But people do so anyway.
The preoccupation your mind has to social media can take a hold of you, to the point we’re no longer in tune with reality. And that can make us have lower attention spans as well. We become so inculcated in the easy read memes that may just be bias propaganda, the endless entertainment videos keeps us distracted from deep thoughts, diminishing our capacity for information absorption, and they’re damn sure not meditating because most can’t sit still for a minute without being on the apps.
Oh. And who needs to read books when you’ve got Sparknotes! Sparknotes is intended to be study notes to refresh your mind with the main events of a piece of literature. But many just skip reading and just memorize the notes they didn’t even write. No independent thought required. Thinking is just too much work!
5. WE’VE BECOME ADDICTS
That constant ping! you hear every time you get a notification sends an adrenaline rush to pick up your phone and see what’s going on. You just can’t stop getting on there until all notifications have cleared! But then there’s more and more! It never stops because it’s not designed to stop. I read a facsinating article about how social media was designed similar to casino rewards with psychological conditioning to keep people hooked on it, you can check out this informative article here. I’ve also written another blog regarding addictions: how temptations become addictions.