This is the mantra some of us have told ourselves. Of course, it’s never good to speak negativity into existence. There is power in the words we say, (and repeat). But it can be relieving to release the tension we have within ourselves. It is absolutely healthy to express our thoughts and get it off our chest once and for all. So, if this phrase ever popped into your head, acknowledge that thought, and think about where it came from, discern whether or not it is true.
1. It Could be Healthy Stress to Propel You to Excel
Often times, we can be harsh on ourselves because we want to push ourselves further. This could give us that “positive stress” to keep us on top of things. It is said that most successful people sit on top of A LOT of failures. You are bound to fail when you take risks, so the more you try to closer you get to the result you wanted. Of course, this only works if you apply different strategies. You don’t want to do the same thing over and over expecting a different result. (The would be the definition of insanity).
2. Feeling Stuck with Regrets? The what ifs…
Or maybe we think we could’ve done better. And so we look back at the track record of our life like “I wish I would’ve done this differently,” or “why didn’t I think of this sooner?” Either way, it’s pointless to delve into “what could’ve been.” You’re basically dwelling on what something you cannot change, and this can make you feel less than. It’s not helpful to put your energy into things you have no control over. You’ll become frustrated by something that is impossible to change. You cannot change the past, but the present is yours. It’s better to put your energy towards what you can do now in order to have a better future. The best we can do is learn from our mistakes and move on.
3. It Could Just be Negative Thoughts Creeping up on You!
Sometimes the thought of possibly being a failure can be toxic. If you find yourself constantly repeating this mantra in your mind, you are giving it too much power. You don’t want to feed that beast. Most people sure do undermine the mind. They don’t believe in the power of thoughts and vibrations of words or sounds. But it has been scientifically proven that our words and certain sounds play a huge role in our growth. There’s many articles about it, to read one of them click here. Since words can influence our growth, then the same concept applies to our thoughts. Our thoughts give birth to the words we are about to speak. So it makes sense that our thoughts are as important as the words and sounds we spew or hear.
We wield the power to either prosper or be stagnant. We hold that power, and we don’t even realize it. When we undermine our mind, we undermine our own potential. Certainly, it also depends heavily on our environment. Growing up in a toxic environment can negatively impact our growth. This is true.
And this can be one of the toughest challenges we may have to face. If you’d been dealt the worse cards to play this game with… well then, failure can be inevitable. However, once you become aware of how you ended up in that predicament. Once you’ve made sense out of it all, (as disappointing or disheartening it can be) we can begin to learn, and take the measures we can to slowly evolve from it. Yes, it may be your parent’s fault, but their parents probably failed too. Your family and community may have let you down, but once we are aware of this harsh reality we can focus on shifting our mindset.
We can go FROM dwelling in the past that which we cannot change TO seeking life saving wisdom to help ourselves and others take steps into the right direction. As long as you’ve begun this journey you are not a failure. You’re only a failure if you don’t take accountability or make changes that are conducive to growth.
I know it can be hard to keep a positive attitude. I’ve been there myself. Many people have gone through it, and some are still going through it. This is just a part of the trials of life. It is a life-long battle of mental fortitude.
I was once considered a very negative person. I once said, “How can I be positive when I don’t see anything positive around me?” Our environment definitely has an influence on how we see the world. You can say that the best way to help this is by simply changing our environment, and moving elsewhere. Although, this does help tremendously, I’d have to suggest something more. It begins with the mind. Your mind must align with the prosperity you seek so that when you do reach it, you will accept it with open arms and be grateful for it. We can move but still have the wrong mindset which would still hinder our potential.
But if we focus on shifting our mindset, we can awaken a light within us even through the midst of hopelessness. We sharpen our productivity. The process will be gradual, but eventually we become able to eject ourselves out of that toxicity, and finally be able to flow easily. Once we are able to leave that toxic environment with the right mindset, the path is a lot smoother.
Now back to the question…
How can I be positive when I don’t see anything positive around me?
This has got to be one of the hardest things to crack. Our entire life centers around the ability to maintain sanity and morality throughout the midst of darkness that seems to dominate the world. We are born into an imperfect world trying to be perfect. You don’t have to be perfect, chances are we already failed at that anyways, but what we do have to do is remain aware and live righteously. Now of course, a person can choose whatever path they wish to embark on. Cool. Go on ahead. It’s your life, your story. But every action does come with a consequence. The consequence may not be immediate, but it surely will happen. Living right doesn’t mean be perfect, (again we already failed at that) it means striving to do what’s right, living for a better tomorrow, and being conscientious about the next generation. You want the next generation to be better than you. You can only achieve that by being a positive role model for them to observe and learn from. Leading by example is the best way to do it. Telling the youth “to do as I say not as I do” is compete bullshit. It is essential to lead by example. But you can only do that when you shift your mindset, leave the toxicity for good, live righteously, and attain wisdom. That way the next generation can inherit wisdom, and be guided into the right direction.
And that way the thought of them possibly becoming a failure would never cross their mind. Because the odds would not be against them. They must be positioned in the rightful place where they can thrive. We hold the keys to the success of the next generation.
If you think of yourself as a failure… there’s one thing that can be done and it is to ensure that the next generation doesn’t repeat that same mistakes, nor repeat the same self-defeating mantras that would lead them into becoming a failure.
For as long as you uphold wisdom, you are not a failure.