This post will have a little personal touch to it, and if you’re looking for motivation then this is the place to be. Everyday I strive to maintain a great level of excellence. Iron weight training has been the thing that put the nail to the coffin where all my past hurts and woes now lie six feet under because I have chosen to move on with my life, and become happier than ever before. I want to become as tough as that iron that I lift, and allow my spirit to get lifted into a healing frequency that keeps me serene and feeds my resiliency.
(Disclaimer: I am not a registered dietitian or a certified personal trainer. I’m just an avid researcher who is passionate about health, fitness, and personal growth because every human being should know how to take care of their body. I’ve been through the fat-loss and muscle-gain journey myself, so I’m sharing my experiences and what I’ve l learned in order to encourage others to live healthy).
I went from skinny to fat, then back to skinny until I got into muscle gain. You’re either too fat or too skinny, right? Nothing’s ever good enough, huh? You can even be in the best shape of your life, and have the physique of a fitness model, there will always be an idiot who will have something stupid to say just to bring you down.
STORYTIME & A MOTIVATIONAL MESSAGE
I remember back in my late teens I was at the gym doing my thing. Then, some random dickhead said to me, “Don’t work out too much because men don’t like that.”
I told him, “You’re not my man, so don’t worry about it.”
So, according to him, men don’t like women who work out “too much?” They also don’t like it when we don’t work out AT ALL, so which one is it? Haha yeah OK whatever. I mean if you like’em big, just say it, and leave me the hell alone. There’s no such thing as working out “too much” just like there’s no such thing as “making too much money.” Only stupid people will try to disrupt your auspicious flow.
Every man has their own preference. They’re not all the same, so his comment was very self-absorbed because the world doesn’t revolve around his opinions. And well, it seems like people in general don’t know what they want because when you’re fat you get picked on. When you’re skinny you can still get rejected, and made to feel like you’re “less of a woman” for being too small and not curvy enough. You can even be slim and toned with an athletic built, I promise you that someone will have something stupid to say. Trust me, I KNOW. That’s why we don’t live by what others say.
YOU live for YOU.
Fuck what people have to say, especially if they’re just trying to bring you down.
That’s why we should NOT seek validation from others, but rather we should get that from within and love ourselves. You have to know how to muffle out peoples’ negative and irrelevant opinions because most likely they don’t know what they’re talking about especially when their SOLE PURPOSE is to DISCOURAGE your growth.
ALWAYS keep your vibe high. Emanate greatness everywhere you go, and never let anyone rob you of your joy.
Lifting iron weights has uplifted me, and gave me a lot of confidence after going through a tremendous amount of bullshit. I will not allow anyone to take anything away from me. Pumping iron, hitting the bag, and running has been very therapeutic for me during my darkest hours. I would get my daily therapy which allowed all my anger, contempt, and frustration to be released in a healthy way. In that process, I’ve become stronger than I ever thought possible both in the mind and body. Do what makes you feel good as long as it’s HEALTHY and PRODUCTIVE.
I want YOU to know that it’s NEVER too late to get started on your fitness and self-improvement journey.
ACKNOWLEDGE the problems, but don’t dwell on it, only use it as information for you to know what needs improvement, so you can FOCUS more on SOLUTIONS.
DON’T be so fixated on things that you have NO control over like your height, age, past traumas, etc. FOCUS more on things you CAN CHANGE naturally.
If you’re out of shape, you can always get back in shape! It doesn’t matter how “old” you are, just get started NOW that you are still BREATHING!! Work with what you have and bring that inner beauty out by focusing on getting HEALTHY. It’s not about “getting skinny” because skinny doesn’t mean you’re healthy. Health means not having excess fat clogging up your arteries and disrupting your vital organs from functioning. You can be skinny and still be prone to illness because of poor immunity. You see, we’re doing this for HEALTH not VANITY, but you will look very sexy when you get those results though!! Haha! The goal is to be healthy physically and mentally, but I’m not gonna lie it sure does feel good to look good too!
If you’re FAT and you let yourself go, you can always lose weight and tone up. It’s not the end of the world, but your mind can make you think and feel that way because your unhealthy lifestyle makes you more prone to negative thoughts. I was a skinny kid until I got fat because of trauma and my love for fast food. I weighed about 130 lbs at the age of 10, and I HATED vegetables, but I also hated being CONSTIPATED. Sitting on that toilet for hours with pain in my bootyhole was definitely a wake up call. I had no choice but to learn to love vegetables, and now I LOVE my VEGGIES!! I eat more vegetables than I do meat. I slimmed down to like a size 3 around my early teens.
If you’re SKINNY or scrawny, you can always build some muscle at an iron gym and up your PROTEIN. I know my little self was able to do it 😉. I got into pumping iron around late high-school, and was able to lift more than my own weight. That was a huge accomplishment for me. I didn’t think I could ever do it because to be honest I was so small and weak before. I went from struggling to lift a 40 lb barbell to being able to bench 130 lbs and squat 180 lbs. This gave me a newfound confidence that I can do anything if I work diligently and consistently at it.
BINGE-EATING, EATING DISORDERS, AND BODY DYSMORPHIA
Because I’m such a foodie, I was determined to make healthy food actually taste delicious, and this was where I discovered my love for the culinary arts. You don’t need to eat just salads and soups everyday to lose weight. That will drive you crazy to the point where you’ll binge eat. I’m guilty of that. I would binge eat pizza and cookies, then feel like shit afterwards. I would feel so shitty that I would work out excessively to the point of utter exhaustion. Then, I would purge it out as a punishment for being such a fat fuck even though I was no longer even fat at that time. Either way, I still felt fat regardless, and I was self-conscious about my appearance because people have a way of making you feel ugly even when you’re a child. This adds more trauma on top of trauma which contributed to my somewhat misanthropic views.
Everytime I gave into binge eating, a wave of shame and disappointment would come upon me which can fuel your depression and self-loathing too. Man, I was talking down on myself so much to the point there was no need for me to have bullies. My mind became my own worst enemy, especially whenever I gave into my fatty food cravings. Gladly, I’ve overcame that a long time ago, so it’s possible to gain control of your mind. Anyway, HEALTHY FOOD DOES NOT NEED TO BE BLAND or tasteless!! Dammit! We love good food and you can still eat pretty good if you stay active and get your greens and nutrients in!!
Working out is fun and it can be your new addiction. If you’re gonna be addicted to something, let it be something that WILL UPGRADE YOU. You will look and feel good too, and life will feel like it’s worth living again because you will be HEALTHY.
You DON’T have to starve yourself. You will feel full if you eat nutritious home cooked meals and healthy snacks throughout the day. Once you increase your metabolism from all that working out, you will be able to eat more, but it has to be nourishing. Nutritious can be delicious.
NOT A SWEET TOOTH
I wasn’t really a fan of sweets. Even as a kid, I hated cake and cupcakes. The frosting was just too sweet, and it was torturous eating it. Everyone thought I was a weird kid because I hated birthday cakes, and I would be the only one who never ate a slice. I do like cookies though, but that’s about it. I was fat mainly because I was addicted to pizza, chicken tenders, and burgers. I remember I was so fat at the age of 10 that I ate 2 whole boxes of Little Caesar’s pizza.
Damn, how did I do that!?
Now, I can’t even bring myself to eat one whole box. Hell, I can’t even force myself to eat Little Caesar’s PERIOD. There are better pizza places to go to. Hehe. Now, I’m at a point where I can’t even eat THAT MUCH like I used to. I can’t even eat the same foods I used to eat because my body will automatically reject it.
But hey, if you love fried foods, you can get yourself an air fryer! 😉
As far as the sweet treats…
I know it’s hard if you have a sweet tooth, 😋 but cut out the extra sugar, or at least limit the sweets gradually. Fruit will be your non-guilty pleasure, or at least eat a small portion of desserts that have fruit in it (preferably low or no sugar) peach cobbler, apple crisp, or some dark chocolate. Definitely AVOID deep-fried desserts. Also, cheesecake is very unhealthy. One slice is about 1000 calories. Damn! But they do have cheesecake flavored yogurt, so you can satisfy that craving without overindulging.
INCREASE YOUR MIND POWER
Don’t eat out of emotion because if you do that, that means that you’re allowing your “feelings” to control you, and make you do things that will destroy you slowly. Gain full control of your mind. You tell your body what to do, don’t let your body tell YOU what to do, especially if it’s telling you to destroy yourself.
Train the mind to eat what it NEEDS not what it THINKS or FEELS like it WANTS. Your hypothalamus will adjust accordingly overtime as you begin to replace bad eating habits with good ones. It’s all a learning experience. You can search for healthy and delicious recipes on Pinterest, so a healthy diet doesn’t have to suck ass.
Lastly, STOP paying so much attention to the media, and take breaks from social media. The media profits off of keeping you at a low-vibration because it makes you more susceptible to being under their control. The narratives they push is meant to keep you depressed, insecure, and have low self-esteem. You can read more about that in “The Dark Cloud of Social Media” and “5 Ways Social Media Destroyed Our Minds.” These are very good reads if you find yourself feeling depressed, worthless,, unproductive, or if you’re comparing yourself to others.
You are YOU, so focus on who YOU can be. Live in REALITY because life can be beautiful if you make it that way, but that can only happen once you start focusing on YOU and keeping your eyes on YOUR LANE. Your lane is your world, so make it yours. Now, you better go run it.
For more posts about health and nutrition check out…
5 Benefits of Eating Lean Meats & Dark Leafy Greens
7 Powerful Benefits of Fasting
Running: As a Form of Healing Escapism
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